Life happens. Good things happen. Upsetting and even bad things happen. But it's not the situation that define you. It's not the trial that determines that "you suck," "you worked for nothing," or that "you're a failure."
What really determines this is how YOU view yourself, and how YOU handle what life hands over to you. Interestingly, when life hands you "sweet lemonades" on a silver platter, garnished with extra sugar and even cold ice, figuratively speaking, sometimes we take it for granted. Sometimes, we forget how great we have it.
But when life hands you bitter lemons, you have to decide to make it sweet. And that can be hard. It can be hard to enjoy life when you're missing your mom, your dad, and your younger brothers. It's hard to enjoy it when you don't get that job, when financial troubles are stressing you out, when you feel alone, or when you feel like you aren't getting that answer to a prayer. It's hard when somebody hurts you, or when you feel like you have been destroyed, brought so low that you don't feel like there is anyway you can get back up.
Believe me, I get it.
I've come to learn in my life, that it is during those moments that you are being led the most. I've made a goal to change the way I look at those moments. I'm starting to learn to say in my prayers, not "Why isn't this working," or "Aren't you listening?" but rather, "This didn't work out, and I'm going to have faith that that is because thou hast something better in store for me."
I've learned to ask, "If there is a better decision, please make it clear to me."
I hope to one day be able to say, "Thy will be done."
I'm not perfect. I still have bad days. I'm not sure if most people realize this. People sometime tell me that I'm incredible, that I'm an inspiration to be able to be happy and move forward when life gave me what in my mind was the worse thing it could have possibly given.
But I'm still human.
I still cry when I miss them. I still experience moments of anger. I still become irritated, or am not pleasant to be around. There are days when I need to leave my home to go for a drive to make sure that I don't take that anger out on my husband or anyone else around me.
And that's how life might be for me for the rest of my existence. I may not ever FULLY "get over it." And that's ok with me. I don't WANT to "get over it."
But I DO want to become stronger.
I want to be in control of my life and my emotions.
I want to make my lemonade sweet.
I have been through a lot, and so have many people that I love and cherish.
But those moments DO NOT define ME.
And those moments DO NOT define YOU.
Whatever it is that you have gone through, what you are going through, or what you will go through CANNOT define you UNLESS YOU ALLOW IT.
YOU make the decisions.
YOU make life good.
YOU make life happy.
Never forget the power that was given within you to overcome hard things.
When life gives you lemons, how sweet is your lemonade?